Friday, January 17, 2014
I met with a little ladies group from church this week (the group was little, not the ladies), and we all went around the room and said how things are going for us. Responses included, "Next week I'm one year cancer free!" "It's been a year since I lost my daughter and her kids are doing so much better", and "I can do laundry at my house!" My cute grandma friends were thrilled for my news, I love them.
Nothing is ever "done" around here. I need to hang my ironing board, hang the hooks and grout the tile. Oh, and a door would be nice. I was questioning the coral color a bit, when I found this pic from Wendy's Look Book. That's totally the vibe I was going for with my ultra glamorous warrior-housewife under-the stairs washer and dryer, Wendy! Thanks for the endless validation!
Monday, January 6, 2014
I read a lot during the break. I hate most movies, and I for sure hate any movie the guys want to watch, so when Dan and the kids watched movies most nights, I went to bed early with a book. I will only review books I liked. Who has time for negativity?
We are both children of type-A immigrant parents, so we see most Americans as whiners. Sorry, we just do. She says she hates it when people say they are "stressed". Her mom, who was an OBGYN in Africa, had to re-do her residency in America, which meant commuting (1...2 hours... I can't remember) while she had a young family. Every day before she left she prepared all three meals for the day and left them in the fridge. She never heard her mom say she was stressed. On a personal note, I hate it when people say they are busy. Really? Then eliminate something, whiner.
OK, the other thing she is really vulnerable about is her desire to be a wife and a mother. This is such a politically incorrect and uncool thing for a young, accomplished Hollywood (or anywhere else) young woman to want, I was surprised she was so candid about it. She talks about her married friends who drone on about how hard marriage is. She says something like, "Shut up! You have what we all want!" I don't remember the exact quote because I gave my copy away... but the point is to be grateful that you found someone who you can build a life with. As someone who has been married for 13 years, I agree. We have had Hard Times, but this whole dialogue about "Marriage Is Work", just creates an attitude of drudgery. I studied a bit of Eastern religion in college, and one philosophy I remember is that with arranged marriage, you are expected to love the one you marry, while in the West you are expected to marry the one you love... and Eastern marriages are much more successful. It goes back to your attitude. In America, we are free to have it both ways, so be careful with who you pick and make the most of it. I like to think of Hard Times like, "You're being a jerk, so be cool so we can have fun again". Joking! Moving on...
I read this book right before Christmas, and it put all of my expectations and those of my children into perspective. We need so little and we have so very much. This book really stuck with me. As angry as I felt towards her parents, her mother in particular, I also related to some of their philosophies, which made me think, "There by the Grace of God, go I".
The most important passage of the book for me, what could be it's thesis, is at the end when she is in college and her professor is discussing poverty and homelessness in America. In the class, Walls suggests that there are some homeless people because they choose to reject traditional values and have made it their choice (again, I am paraphrasing). The professor slams her in front of the whole class, "People want to go cold and hungry?" Not able to tell her story, she submits, "Of course not". If you agree with the professor, read this book. I have known homeless people, and the homeless people I knew had other resources which they rejected to be a part of the counter culture. I'm just speaking of the people I know personally. I see homeless people on the street who are disabled, often veterans, and I always give them anything I have. Cash, food, anything, and I teach my children to show the less fortunate compassion, so that's not what I am saying. I am saying that as hard as it is to believe, there are entire populations of people who prefer the hunger and cold to following the norms of society. Poverty in America is sometimes choice, albeit more by default than actual planning.
I was still subdued after reading The Glass Castle when I started Unbroken, the day after Christmas. Oh, boy. Where do I start.
Maybe it's too soon for a review, I'm surprised that I'm feeling emotional trying to summarize this, I truly can not. I'll tell you what. Google it if you're interested, and if you don't read, I hear Angelina Jolie is directing the movie. Will I see the movie? On the fence. Probably not. Like I said, I go to movies for entertainment and I don't think I have the stomach for it. This book has a happy ending. I mean, sorry to spoil it for you, but if it didn't it wouldn't be much of a story, so duh! Of course it does.
This is a long book. It documents years of suffering and atrocities by POW's. I found myself thinking, "Drop that bomb already! When does the bomb drop so we can just call this thing!" Of course, I mean the atomic bombs over Hiroshima and Nagasaki. I lack the vocabulary to express what I'm trying to say. My brother is an expert on WWII, so if he reads this he will think I'm a bimbo... but here it goes. I didn't understand the warrior spirit... war philosophy... I don't know what it's called... of the Japanese. I knew about Kamikazes and that Japanese troops committed mass suicide rather than surrender, but I didn't understand how deep this whole honor thing went. I started to understand that Japan would never surrender if there was any option at all. Still, why two civilian targets? Perhaps if it was tactical targets the Japanese would have seen it as more collateral damage and continued the war, it had to be civilian targets for them to surrender. This book was from the American perspective, so I tried to find unbiased information on the topic, which doesn't exist. Research led me down a rabbit hole of politicized rhetoric and hind-site judgements, and I don't think we will ever have those answers. War is a tragedy and disgusting and everyone loses. How am I so lucky to raise my children in one of the only times and places in the history of the world where we are free? A humbling thought, and my ultimate take away from the book.
My interest in WWII was peaked. Dan had been taping the mini-series "The Pacific", so we watched the first one together. It's too soon, I just can't. I really have little tolerance for violence, and even though it was well done and compelling, I have to take a break from that whole topic for a while so I can get out of bed in the morning. Read Unbroken, you can handle it, and I am really sensitive. Hopefully you're of stronger stock than me. I have talked to other friends who loved the book and are really looking forward to the movie. I admit, I am kind of wimpy. It's definitely one of the books that I am going to make sure my boys read... in High School.
Ok, thanks for letting me ruminate on my recent books, Dan can only take so much.
Friday, January 3, 2014
I have played outside with my boys 2 days in a row now... in winter. I'm really gunning for Mother of the Year, here. We hiked all around Davis Creek Park and after an hour, somehow ended up back at our car. The boys turned and ran the other way, not ready to leave. When we ended up at the parking lot again a while later, I made them load up. They were still bursting with energy so I drove them to the park down the road and read in my warm car while they chased each other around for another hour. Graham fell asleep on his Dad's lap right after dinner and the older boys weren't far behind. I love Reno sunshine. I can't complain about the 40 degree days.
A while ago I posted this picture on Facebook of the kids frosting sugar cookies and people asked about my fridge. Lincoln's blood sugar has crashed... too much frosting... I've been wanting to do a kitchen post for a while because I am so excited about how things are (extremely slowly) coming along, but I will have to divide it up or it will never happen. The kitchen was a total gut, we (Dan) even had to replace the rotten sub floor. The worst part was removing the drop ceiling. It was at about 7'6", now it's back to 8 like the rest of the South side of the house. It took a couple of weeks to raise the plumbing and wiring, a very nasty job. Fortunately, Dan's dad and brother came into town to help.
You can see where the ductwork ran, leaving a nook just tall enough for the fridge. Most everyone, even the salespeople, tried to talk me out of the glass door, but I have wanted a glass door fridge for YEARS, and finally we are doing a kitchen just for us, not as an investment, so I held firm. The sales people all said that customers get sick of the glass door because it's hard to keep fridges clean. Glass doors are SO unpopular that this model is discontinued. If you want one, get shopping before it sells out. The castors are pretty sweet, too.
My sister was on my team, telling Dan, "Jacqui never has any food in her fridge, anyway. Keeping it neat won't be a problem". I HAVE food, I just don't archive food! I have very strong feelings on groceries. I have a lot of repect for food, and I hardly ever waste anything. I only grocery shop about 3 times a month and I buy pretty basic fresh foods. I can't wait to get Arancana chickens so I can have pretty green eggs. (I LOVE to clean out other people's refrigerators, but it's not the sort of thing I can offer, so if you want my help please ask. It's my gift to this world).
I agree with Peter Walsh , an organizing guru. Set limits for your stuff based on you capacity to store it. If the condiment basket is full something gets tossed so the fresh condiment will fit. It's kind of gross to have 10 open salad dressings in your fridge, don't you think? Some of them must be so old. Large spice containers are in the freezer. In the unlikely event that I am baking I pull out the whole spice basket. It's very convenient and the spices last longer chilled.
The obvious benefit to a glass door fridge is that the kids aren't opening it and staring at the food all day while energy is wasted. I got Dan this sweet Elk bottle opener (apron hook) for Christmas. $10 at Cost Plus, the perfect host gift for that Super Bowl party coming up. There's some news you can use!
Dreams do come true. I have a glass door fridge, I can die now.
P.S. Paolo wants you to know that we found "deer paw" tracks in the snow yesterday.
Thursday, January 2, 2014
This is my utility closet, today. Doorway, wall in the hall where the bi-fold doors were. Light switches and thermostat moved and tile started. Dan went back to work today but he wants to finish the tile tonight and he is determined to get the washer and dryer in the house by the end of the weekend, bless his heart. I kept warning him that 2 in the afternoon was his deadline, not midnight. At 2:00 yesterday I drug Dan outside to play with the kids, and we had so much fun. We kept asking each other why we don't play outside more often. Sometimes you have to really schedule things that are important, even simple things, or you can keep yourself occupied with endless tasks and miss out on all the fun.
I took this picture while I leaned against a tree to give my legs a break. I yelled, "My legs are on fire!" Paolo (5) yelled back, "I don't see any flames" and kept on going. Strait uphill and they ran the whole way, kids are so cool.
Taking a little snack break. Paolo always has that sweet smile on his face, making him vulnerable to attacks by grown-ups powerless to resist smooching his chubby cheeks. Graham, just 3, in moon-boots, ran circles around everyone, no whiney babies here. I mostly like this picture because you can see the scar on Dan's neck from the surgery he had in October. It looks like he got in a knife fight with a pirate and won. So hot!
Wednesday, January 1, 2014
I hate fast food, and we were both SOOOO relieved to have a kitchen and start eating right again. The kids, on the other hand, got really picky during the 5 month fast food extravaganza. Before living in a barn they ate salad every night, now they throw a fit it they see "salad" on their sandwich or in their pasta. There is some painful reprogramming going on around here. Dan is a busy guy with a demanding job and a commute, so giving up fast food is a bigger sacrifice for him than it is for me, but I have already packed a big bag of healthy food for him to take to work tomorrow (protein bars and shakes and jerky for the office... not super healthy whole foods, but its better to be prepared with engineered foods than to get hungry and run to a vending machine) and purchased healthy groceries to pack fresh lunches and prepare his favorite healthy dinners.
Dan loves to exercise, so last night we talked about where our interests overlap in that department. He is going to really support me while I get in the habit of regular exercise. I detest gyms. I just see and smell germs, and the competative energy of the loud music and yelling involved with group exercise classes totally turns me off. The good news is... I live in the forest, and I LOVE the forest! I also live next to state park with miles of groomed trails. I ALSO have a deck off my bedroom, my dream meditation/yoga spot as soon as it gets a little warmer. SO... for Christmas I got hiking shoes and a pair of Vibrams for the road. Today we are going on a family hike. Baby steps.
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Good luck with any and all attempts at personal development and self improvement in 2014. Remember, action goals are way more effective than result goals.
Monday, December 30, 2013
I lost 68 lbs in 2009 with this program and a health coach. I had Graham the following year. I gained some weight back when I carried him for 42 weeks, but then lost the weight again with the support of my Health Coach. For the most part I defied the odds, until my new baby came along, this dang farm! True Confession Time: I didn't have a kitchen for 5 months. Sure, I could have kept protein shakes in a cooler and lived on fruit and engineered food the whole time, but the reality was I started picking up fast food, at least once a day, because I wasn't just feeding myself, I had my kids to take care of. Usually I was on my way to Home Depot at 8 at night and Dan would call, "I just remembered the kids haven't had dinner and they are hungry and want to go to bed." I have talked to other people who were involved with renoes and they had similar experiences. Anyhoo, I am so pumped to take advantage of the synergy that this challenge will create: Here are some official details:
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